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David Byrne told us years ago...

"Transmit the message to the receiver
Hope for an answer some day
I got three passports, a couple of visas
You don't even know my real name"

youtube.com/watch?v=jLwZvg46jm…

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I want people who get married to think of a new name that’s theirs. Like, if John Smith and Andrea Burnett get married, maybe they decide that they’re now John Smurf Smith and Andrea Smurf Burnett, and their children will be e.g. Noah Smurf and Olivia Smurf.

Schools worrying “wait, are you obviously a parent of this child?” can be reassured because you share a name. People wondering “what happened to this person I used to know?” are also reassured, because surnames don’t change.

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I mean my birthname was used back in school to give me a nickname that could be read as a sloppy penis which I didn't want my potentially kids having to go through. I got a few comments from my more traditional colleagues about it and my grandma mentioned at the wedding that if my grandpa was still alive, he would be devastated.

Ah and the registrar before the wedding asked me at least 5 times if I'm absolutely sure, that this is what I wanted, until I ask her if she's also doing this with the women who take over their future husbands surname. Then she mumbled something about them prussians but I guess that is what you get when you have your wedding in bavaria. 😅

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It's not all that rare. In the UK it used to be normal that your name was whatever you chose to be known by, but this has been complicated in recent years by banks and airlines (amongst others) starting to insist on your name being whatever your parents put on your birth certificate.

We knew one woman who completely changed her name every couple of years, along with her exotic hats. The names got increasingly complicated and difficult to pronounce, though she is admittedly a bit of an outlier.

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Off topic, but curious:

“1900s”? Are people saying that now? To me, born in that century, 1900s always meant the first decade of it, 1900-1909.

But 1600s or 1700s mean the whole century. 1800s is something I don’t hear that much. I suppose it could mean the whole century, but I don’t think you’d say it if you’re talking about the 1860s or later. Is there a rule for this kind of thing?

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seriously, I think it would be a healthy cultural tradition if, on coming of age, we all ceremonially drop our juvenile names given by our parents and legally charged to our chosen name. Sure, it would be a good point for trans kids to come out, but it would generally be a point for EVERYONE to decide who they are and tell the world about it, for better or for worse - and I think everyone needs that!