Time for Tyla's Tragically Comic Misadventures on Fetlife!
This is not a specific response, rather a conglomeration of many responses.
There are so many people who don't understand what I want when I say I'm "submissive." So much so that I'm starting to worry that I'm using the word wrong.
People keep assuming what I want in a dominant is someone to dominate me… as if it the "being dominated" that is the end goal.
But… that's so far from the truth that it's hard to even start the conversation.
…
Martin Schröder hat dies geteilt.
#Reichweite wem #Reichweite gebührt
Dazu zitiere ich nur #AEinstein: „Zwei Dinge sind unendlich, das Universum und die menschliche Dummheit, aber beim Universum bin ich mir noch nicht ganz sicher.“
WIP: Terms of Use: Update licensing policy
This PR is joint work by @n0toose, @gedankenstuecke, and me. It supersedes #64 and reflects the consensus in https://codeberg.org/Codeberg-e.V.Codeberg.org
ToU clarification: license requirement (or lack thereof) for private repos
### Comment ### Background In a fediverse thread about Codeberg the question came up [whether private repos need an open source license](https://social.lol/@hl/114137367808158097).Codeberg.org
Ihr seid 36.000 - wie schön ist das denn?
Seid ihr alle von Twitter geflohen?
dann möchte ich euch doch recht herzlich hier begrüßen!
Habt ihr Fragen!?
taz.de/!6088393
They did not stop.
still thinking about the rando at the most recent seattle punk rock flea market who sat next to me for a while as i was vaping on a bench before saying "can i ask you a weird question?"
i said yes and then they asked me "do you think it's worth continuing on with no sense of identity?"
i told them "i think so, yeah" and smiled and then the convo ended
i hope they're doing okay
btw when i said "i think so" emphasis was on "i" and not "think"
i wanted my tone to come across as hopeful
hell not even just irl
i try to be a beacon of hope on here as well
i wanna prove to people that you can be your whole self and it's totally okay and fuck anyone who judges you
you don't need to censor your weirdness or neurodivergent quirks or unabashed queerness or any of that
when i first joined mastodon in 2017 there were a handful of trans people i first followed. i was still figuring shit out at the time and they really helped guide me along the right path. not even directly. just by posting about their daily lives. it was my first positive trans representation
i've been told i've played a similar role for many people nowadays. and that just warms my heart so much
Watched a youtube video about the making of The Electric State, and they mentioned that Alan Silvestri did the score, which surprised me because I couldn't remember any of the music.
Listened to the soundtrack today and... yeah... that because it is completely forgettable. It's undoubtedly Alan, but completely unremarkable. Not even a central theme.
What happened, man?
#Petition:
"Zukunft mit Grundeinkommen – statt Verschärfungen beim Bürgergeld"
Weitere Details:
innn.it/grundeinkommen
Gern #Boost
#BGE #Grundeinkommen #Bürgergeld
Petition · Zukunft mit Grundeinkommen – statt Verschärfungen beim Bürgergeld · innn.it
Jetzt innn.it-Petition unterschreiben & Maren Modrow und Vertrauensgesellschaft e.V. unterstützen!innn.it
Martin Marheinecke hat dies geteilt.
Wie nennen wir das?
" Bundesinnenminister Dobrindt hält trotz einer Gerichtsentscheidung an Zurückweisungen von Asylsuchenden an den Grenzen fest. Das Gericht habe eine Einzelfallentscheidung getroffen und verlange nur nach einer ausführlichen Begründung. "
Hatte nicht die CSU bei der letzten Generation einen Lösungsansatz für fortgesetztes Handeln nach Gerichtsentscheid: Vorsorgehaft!
Bereits der Rechtsbruch sollte bei einem Innenminister zum Rücktritt ausreichen, das Dobrint von einem Hauptsacheverfahren bei abgeschlossenem (rechtskräftigem) Eilverfahren spricht, zeigt seine fehlende Sachkenntnis im eigenen Fachgebiet und lässt mich fassungslos zurück.
I do stand by this point but a lot of people have misinterpreted it, so I want to clarify. When I say genAI "doesn't work", I do not mean that these products cannot generate images, produce running code, emit what appears to be coherent language. Like, obviously, everyone can just watch it do that stuff. What I mean is that it does not appear to do any of those things to a level of quality that meaningfully improves productivity. It does not have positive ROI.
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Glyph (@glyph@mastodon.social)
The technology doesn't work. It *feels* like it works, so they keep doing science to see whether it does or it doesn't. But when you look at it with science instead of vibes, it just doesn't. https://fortune.Mastodon
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Im November 2022 kaufen wir einen gebrauchten Renault Kangoo Z.E. (Baujahr 2019) für unseren Fuhrpark. Genutzt wird er überwiegend für Transporte auf dem Gelände. Zu dem Zeitpunkt haben wir noch keine Wallbox, so dass wir ihn schlicht an der Schuko-Steckdose ...
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Today I had my first "real" meeting with my new therapist. She asked "What has been on your mind that you want to talk about?"
The entire conversation was about how that is not a question I can answer because my immediately thought is to figure out what it is I SHOULD talk about, what she WANTS ME to talk about, where she is and where I need to be in relation to her so this works.
She was surprised by this and asked why I felt that.
So then I explained Transness. How my entire life has been spent sussing out what the other person needs me to be/present/say in order for me to be safe.
The whole hour was spent explaining what it's like to be Trans, to be autistic, to be Black but look ambiguously ethnic. In other words, to be an other who is trying to survive. The whole hour was that.
So now I don't feel like I had therapy as much as feel like I've taught someone else. Which sucks.
Braucht ein Wesen nen OSM Tile Server für Deutschland?
Ich hätte da einen...
Einfach fragen, bekommt den Link ;)
Weil es wichtig ist, kommt jetzt eine Thread. Im Mittelpunkt wird der Antisemit Roger #Halam stehen. Und #LG. Alles hat eine Geschichte und sie muss erzählt werden.
Hallam war der Mitbegründer von Extinction Rebellion.
taz.de/Antisemitismus-bei-Exti…
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Antisemitismus bei Extinction Rebellion: Hallam nun mit Gaskammervergleich
Der Extinction-Rebellion-Mitgründer entschuldigt sich für Aussagen zum Holocaust. In einem „Spiegel“-Interview irritiert er aber erneut.Denis Giessler (taz)
It's so depressing how much channer speak has wormed its way into the vocabulary of Gen Z queers... I spent a day around some recently and it's so goddamn pervasive, and they don't even realise.
Those funny little wojaks aren't neutral, folks. "Based" isn't just a funny word and "sigma male" didn't originate in a vacuum.
Greentext isn't just for posting on Twitter, it has an origin and a history and you should learn it. And for that matter, "degenerate" isn't a word to throw around for shits and giggles, and those "chad" memes, why do you think the guy's blonde and blue-eyed?
It's not even that they argue that it's divorced from its origins and therefore fine – the kids these days (and these were otherwise perfectly nice and cool people!) straight up don't know that the ✨ funky ✨ lingo they're using comes from the mouths of nazis.
(no, racism frog isn't different just because its used on twitch as emotes and has a rebranded name)
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@moonglow "degenerate" even sounds like a nazi term. I really don't get how people don't feel uncomfortable using it
(I guess it has some valid uses as a scientific term, but most people do not use it that way)
Liebe Toots
Man könnte an der Welt verzweifeln.
Vollpfosten wo man hinschaut.
Idioten die Halbwissen verbreiten.
Bevölkerungen die Faschisten wählen.
Kriegsverbrecher die frei rumlaufen.
Kapitalisten, die Regierungen kapern.
Macht die Augen und den Mund auf.
Sagt laut "Scheisse" und "Quatsch" wenn dem so ist.
Wehrt Euch wenn jemand mit Lügen versucht Einfluss zu nehmen
- am Stammtisch
- auf der Arbeit
- bei Freunden
- in Bus und Bahn
- in Gemeindevertretungen
- im Verein
ICH MACHE DAS !
Hier ein Text warum antiautoritäre Gruppen in Dresden nicht mit autoritären bis antisemtischen Gruppen zusammenarbeiten wollen.
kosmotique.org/zur-kritik-an-d…
Zur Kritik an den KRETA 2025 - kosmotique
Die KRETA (Kritische Einführungstage an der TU Dresden) waren uns viele Jahre Freund*innen in der kosmotique. Sie haben unsere Räume genutzt, und wir durftenkosmo1 (kosmotique)
Plushies are not for collecting, they are for cuddling.
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#Dobrindt gehört übrigens sofort entlassen.
Wenn Merz dazu nicht die Eier hat, sollte auch er sich nach einem ... sollte er endlich in Pension gehen, wie jeder andere Opa auch.
Hat Friedrich Merz schon des Todestages von Walter Lübcke gedacht oder müssen das wieder wir Tassenlosen alleine machen?
Edit: Todestag ist erst der 2. Juni. Ich habe Fritz vorschnell verurteilt.
404media.co/pro-ai-subreddit-b…
Pro-AI Subreddit Bans 'Uptick' of Users Who Suffer from AI Delusions
“AI is rizzing them up in a very unhealthy way at the moment.”Emanuel Maiberg (404 Media)
Malte Engeler hat dies geteilt.
post-gazette.com/news/crime-co…
This Saturday: the TRANS NERD MEET UP.
First Saturday of the Month 12:30 PM until whenever
Zeitgeist SF, Valencia/Duboce
We don't gatekeep!
If you self-identify as trans/nb/gnc and like to geek out about ANYTHING, please join us!
(Thanks to Chris for making the flier.)
Norman Cöster und ich REACTEN in unserer Eigenschaft als die Erfinder von #bernddasbrot auf den sehr unterhaltsamen Clip der 2boredguys mit dem schönen Titel "Bernd das Brot ist so ein Fiebertraum".
Viel Spaß - wir hatten ihn!
#btw2025 #Wahlumfrage vom 02.06.2025 zur #Bundestagswahl von INSA für BILD: CDU/CSU: 26,5% (+0,5), AfD: 24,5% (+0,5), SPD: 16% (−1), Grüne: 10,5% (+0,5), Linke: 10,5% (−0,5), BSW: 4%, FDP: 4%, Sonstige: 4%.Vergleich mit dem letzten Wahlergebnis vom 23.02.2025: CDU/CSU: −2,0, AfD: +3,7, SPD: −0,4, Grüne: −1,1, Linke: +1,7, BSW: −1,0, FDP: −0,3.
- dawum.de/Bundestag/INSA/2025-0…
taz.de/!6088386
Dann lieber Schokoeis.
🖤♥️
There once was a star named Eastwood,
Who claimed an interview was no good,
He said it was fake,
A story to shake,
But the truth is still misunderstood.
#GuardianLimerick #Film #Austria #Culture #Europe
theguardian.com/film/2025/jun/…
Clint Eastwood calls viral interview a fabrication: ‘Completely phony’
The actor and director claims that an Austrian newspaper invented a recent interview with himBenjamin Lee (The Guardian)
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People kept asking me why I insisted "secure" was part of dependable compute (along reliability, availability, etc).
"Because an insecure system is highly available, just not to you."
M. Tyla Flower
Als Antwort auf M. Tyla Flower • • •"I'll make you do whatever I say and you'll love it."
Eww… gross… leave me alone!
I HATE domination. I fucking absolutely 100% full-on fucking HATE it. It makes me rageful and stabby and I desire a taste for blood. Fuck everything about that.
And yet I say I'm submissive, so they're like "You don't know what you want."
But I DO!
I want the space in which it is safe to be submissive.
…
Jocelynephiliac hat dies geteilt.
M. Tyla Flower
Als Antwort auf M. Tyla Flower • • •The space in which it is safe to be submissive is absolutely not the same as the space in which I am dominated.
So many people (most of them cis men) simply cannot understand this difference.
I don't want to be dominated. In fact, there is no greater turnoff. I instantly shut down.
What I want is to be able to trust someone so fully with my safety and emotional care that I can allow myself to express complete and total vulnerability to that person.
Jocelynephiliac hat dies geteilt.
M. Tyla Flower
Als Antwort auf M. Tyla Flower • • •I don't want to be dominated, I want to be vulnerable.
Those are such vastly different spaces as to be essentially mutually exclusive.
M. Tyla Flower
Als Antwort auf M. Tyla Flower • • •Vulnerability is my most closely guarded secret.
I'm so good at making people feel like I'm being vulnerable when it's all an act that I have fooled multiple therapists. I have a wall around my vulnerability so beautifully designed you would argue with me that it didn't exist at all.
"That's not a wall," you would say, "That's actually you being vulnerable and not admitting it."
And all the while, I have built a projection of vulnerability on a wall you literally cannot see.
Hell, many people reading this will say I'm incredibly vulnerable in my writing… because I'm that fucking good as a writer. I'm so fucking good I can make emotional distance look like vulnerability.
M. Tyla Flower
Als Antwort auf M. Tyla Flower • • •But to be safe enough to be actually, truly vulnerable with someone?
To let go of all of my guards? To exist in a space where I allow another person to take the reigns and be in control? To exist in a space where I am not hyper-vigilant to another's goals or needs or desires and where I just exist in the moment?
That is the face of my god.
Doc Impossible
Als Antwort auf M. Tyla Flower • • •*Hugs*
I wish you could find what you needed more easily.
Jocelynephiliac
Als Antwort auf M. Tyla Flower • • •You keep writing things that make me go “Yes, this, this is me.”
I think the closer dynamic is DDLG, rather than D/S, but that also has problems because I (and I assume you too) am not a little, and even if I was, that comes with a whole load of other incorrect assumptions.